Can you give me some patience tips?

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My son is 7, has an ehcp, we tried for an autism diagnosis but as he's not always that obvious with it they said no autism (family and school disagree) he gets obsessed with things easily, likes making people laugh and plays the fool a LOT, we wondered about adhd too.

He can be VERY hyper and honestly very annoying with it 😅 please don't think I don't love him he is the coolest, clever little funny dude but sometimes he is utterly exhausting and I find myself getting very annoyed cos it's hard for me to concentrate.

He recently found a monopoly game in a charity shop and got it with his pocket money as he'd never played it, I thought great we'll play it in the simplified way and it'll help his money and maths skills.

He can't sit still for most things (except tablet and gaming of course) but trying to play with him and my husband like he wanted and he just can't concentrate, forgets what he's doing most of the time cos he's telling a joke or playing the fool or rolling around (standard) do you have any tips for kids that are good natured most of the time but absolutely exhausting with things like this?!

I will add this and say I was the annoying little girl at school that absolutely had to have things played correctly and done right so I think that's why we clash sometimes 😂 I really want to enjoy this with him and not get snippy but can find it difficult sometimes

Hi maybe you haven’t used the best example here.
Monopoly is recommended for age 8 plus. That will be a typically developing child.
Even on a basic level I wouldn’t expect a child with an EHCP who may be Neurodiverse to be able to play a board game like Monopoly.
I know it was his choice to buy it.
I’d try to have more realistic expectations to teach waiting and basic turn taking e.g. snakes and ladders or one of those games with a pop up dice in the middle. You can buy huge versions of some games with a big dice or play hopscotch. Games involving movement or gross motor activity would be good, throwing bean bags into hoops or at a target or skittles for example.
Make sure he’s getting plenty of physical activities and sensory input too if needed.
Be kind to yourself when you can and just enjoy him.
Think of some of the things you might say to him and try those strategies yourself. If you feel yourself losing patience take a deep breath, count to ten in your head and restart “ shall we try this?” If you are going to say something negative to him tell yourself “ think it don’t say it”
Use praise regularly to say what he is doing well so that he knows when he’s getting it right. Ignore some behaviours you find irritating as long as he’s safe as he may not be able to help them.
Im not saying don’t have clear rules and boundaries of course. You could limit screen time with timers if this is an issue.
Good luck.

I agree, your expectations seem unrealistic for DS’s needs at the moment.

Has DS had a sensory OT assessment? Does he have ongoing sensory OT input and do you have any sensory equipment at home?

For you, do you have noise cancelling headphones? At the risk of being shot down, have you considered whether you are autistic? In some females, one of the signs from childhood can be “absolutely had to have things played correctly and done right”.

Monopoly Deal is your friend here!