Lack of support in education

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As a family we are at breaking point. We have been trying to get support since before child started school. Child now yr 7. Can not attend school. Child is at risk of suicide so forcing into school is not an option. We can get no support.y career is in tatters I'm exhausted trying to work nights to keep omw kind of income..
My and husband are like ships that pass. As he comes in and I go to work.

Financials are a mess due to reduced income.
All things that I would accept if we had manage to get any kind of support. But years of fighting the system has only resulted in exhaustion.

Why can schools be allowed to continue to fail their vulnerable pupils.
And how come some families manage to get support and the rest of us are left in no man's land.

I think I have taken 20 years off my life due to stress. And I just want to end it all so I done have to continue feeling that I've failed my child.

Unfortunately, DC whose parents know the system, can advocate for them and enforce DC’s rights, get better support. It shouldn’t be like that, but it isn’t going to change in the foreseeable future.

Does DS have an EHCP?

Have you requested alternative provision from the LA under section 19 of the Education Act 1996?

No EHCP

Several diagnosis and learning disabilities

But schools have refused EHCP
We have requested ourselves but we just get pushed pillar to post.
The irony is before children I worked in the system and had been doing peripetic work in education since children but have now have had to stop to care for child who isn't able to access school

I know system, I have helped families get right accommodation in past but I can't seem to get system to work for us.

If you don’t have an EHCP but requested an EHCNA yourself, did the LA refuse to assess? If so, did you appeal? Then if they assessed (either by agreement or by being forced to following an appeal), did they then refuse to issue? If so, have you appealed? If the LA hasn’t yet formally refused but is in breach of the statutory timescales, have you threatened judicial review then sent a pre-action letter? If that didn’t work, have you pursued JR proceedings?

And if DS isn’t able to attend school, have you requested provision under section 19 of the Education Act 1996? This is separate from the EHCP process. If you have and the LA refused, ignored you or delayed, have you threatened judicial review then sent a pre-action letter? If that didn’t work, have you pursued JR proceedings?

It's not the school that refuses EHCP, it's the local authority?

So that's where you need to apply the pressure. And the only way to do that is to take them to tribunal for refuse to assess or refuse to issue (which you would very likely win - the vast majority of parents who do that do win). As your child is out of education your tribunal should be a priority.

I'm sorry though. This sounds extremely difficult and if you are working nights then that really complicates doing the admin to get EHCP (would DH contribute to it?)

Sadly year 6 to year 7 transition is well known to be a difficult point.