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Feeling defeated/deflated

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ArtfulGoose · 05/02/2025 16:24

DS (7) has been on the waiting list for over 3 years now, almost certain it’s Autism/ADHD (school agrees). Issues with one of the diagnostic pathways has meant we have had to seek a referral through another. DS’s behaviour is getting more challenging, especially at school. Regular meltdowns, increasingly aggressive behaviours, refusal to engage in class, dysregulation at home time. It’s not any easier at home either, with regular conflicts between him and DD (5) whom I’m also starting to suspect has ADHD. The kids dad and myself split, so I get a little downtime without them but that’s usually filled with trying to catch up on work. I work in HE under a PhD funded scholarship programme, it’s hard work but super flexible, decent pay and good career prospects, so I don’t believe finding an alternative is in the best interest for me and DC. Some days are okay, but today is not one of them. I have insomnia, anemia, chronic pain issues due to hypermobility, and I just have to keep going. It’s utter drudgery! Not sure what I’m expecting from posting this. I just needed somewhere to vent I guess because I feel alone, overwhelmed and in a constant state of fight/flight. Does it ever get any easier? What ways do you cope when you are having a bad day? Suggestions welcome!

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BrightYellowTrain · 05/02/2025 18:21

Things can change.

What support is DS receiving? Does he have an EHCP? Has he had a home OT assessment? Do DC share a bedroom or do they have their own?

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