I have a daughter who is 4 and a half and non verbal autistic, we started potty training her on news years day 2024 and she's done so well! Shes totally dry by day, and wears a nappy at night, that is untill recently, she's only ever done a poo a handful of times in the potty or toilet in all that time, her usual routine is that she will go once her nappy is on at night, and we will change it before she goes to sleep.
In recent weeks she's started refusing the go to the toilet at all at school, holding untill she comes home, and then going on the potty.
it's now turned into refusing even for me and her dad, and instead just wetting herself once a day and that's it. School don't know what to do, and neither do we. Now she's refusing to wear a nappy at bed time at all which we aren't on board with as we know she will wet the bed, so we're up all night waiting for her to be in a really deep sleep so we can get one on her. And now she's even refusing to wear pants. Obviously that's non negotiable but it's a real fight everyday, I had to send her to school with draw string shorts in her back as a backup incase she wouldn't keep her pants on. I know this is unlikely to be a common thing but what do I do?
she literally won't use the toilet after doing so well for a whole year, and now won't wear nappies either. So I've literally got no options