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Essieloulou · 07/01/2025 20:29

Im hoping there are some parents of adult children with autism here. My son is 19, he is lovely kind and vulnerable , he has got himself into a routine of visiting "friends" who i feel are no good for him, ive been told he is being used by them, i have tried to stop him going down but he i
s an adult so i cant ground him extra, ive tried to get him help with social workers but he refuses, im trying to get him to talk to me about it all, but he says its all fine they are his friends and he cant see it anyother way , i dont know how else to help him see that he is maybe being taken advantage of, and i dont know how to help him change the situatiin, and im feeling scared for him, and all i can do is be here to pick up the peices , any advice ?

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kate592 · 07/01/2025 20:46

Who has told you he is being used and in what way are they using him? I think you need to find out as many details as you can. Perhaps you could then to give him some examples based on this of what is not acceptable in a friendship and explain why. I have no idea how serious it is but if you're worried about it getting really serious, like them getting him to run drugs or something then get the police involved - or tell him that you will involve the police if you're worried it's heading in that direction. If they are getting him to give them his money or anything like that then do the same - it's not clear though exactly what is happening here?

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Essieloulou · 07/01/2025 20:53

kate592 · 07/01/2025 20:46

Who has told you he is being used and in what way are they using him? I think you need to find out as many details as you can. Perhaps you could then to give him some examples based on this of what is not acceptable in a friendship and explain why. I have no idea how serious it is but if you're worried about it getting really serious, like them getting him to run drugs or something then get the police involved - or tell him that you will involve the police if you're worried it's heading in that direction. If they are getting him to give them his money or anything like that then do the same - it's not clear though exactly what is happening here?

Another friend of his has said that he is getring bullied and if askes to do anything he will do it straight awy, ive spoken to him about boundaries and what friends do and dont do but he swears he isnt getting bullied or told what to do, we had an incident a couple of yrs ago where someone was taking things from him and the poluce where involved ,that person is now in prision on othe offences , so i will often refer back to that situation, but has he doesnt seem to realise if its banter or if its bulling i dont know what to do

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