Does this sound like adhd to you?
My 9 year old has previously been assessed for inattentive ADHD but was told he didn’t have it because he didn’t meet the criteria at school. Basically because he does well. But I remain concerned something is being missed and that as a diligent personality type he has just got very good at masking. His daydreaming/lack of focus is just off the charts (he’s getting so much negative feedback from us at home because he just can’t be left to complete anything by himself eg getting dressed /ready for school without us standing over him) and he really struggles with concentrating (unless it’s something he loves where his focus is so intense it’s like trying to reach someone on another planet).
He’s still doing well at school but increasingly struggling to keep pace and his self esteem is absolutely plummeting. He’s started to refer to himself as thick (he’s in top maths set but insists he should be in the bottom one) and says he actually finds questions harder the more he looks at them. This sounds odd to me?
I’ve actually always thought there’s something a bit different about him. It’s hard to describe but he’s just always seemed different to other children to me. He has good friends but yesterday he told me he always feels like an outsider.
Grateful for people’s thoughts, thank you.