My DS is 9. I don't know if I am looking for advice or I just want to be listened too. He has just gone on the ASD and ADHD pathway for assessment. His older sister and dad both have a diagnosis for ADHD.
My DS has started having one to one sessions at school because of the problems we are having at home. Last week while he was having his session she picked up on the fact that he is hyper focused on numbers and working out equations. He's had a keen interest in Maths since being in reception, he also has other obsessions such as Minecraft, football and scratch. He can talk about any of these for hours on end, and it's sometimes really exhausting.
We are desperately trying to cut his screen time down due to the fact that he becomes really frustrated playing games. At the weekend we had a really good Saturday, he was the happiest I have seen him for a long time. We went out and played football together, we came home and he wanted to go out again (leaving the house is a big trigger also, so this was a massive win for us.). He woke up Sunday and was in a good mood, right up until it was time to brush his teeth and this set off a big meltdown of kicking screaming and him shouting that he didn't want to do it. He becomes really destructive when he gets angry, he will throw stuff pull his bedding off. It's just awful. This meltdown went on over an hour and he didn't get to sleep until gone 11 pm.
Due to the late night he refused to go to school and was very late, he's been late so many times this year we have already had a letter about it due to the attendance officer looking at the records.
I feel at such a loss because as his mum I want to help him but he is unable to explain how he feels, and he point blank refuses to talk about the outbursts of anger with any of us or anyone at school.
I feel at such a loss and today I just felt like I don't know what I am doing wrong because all I want is for him to be happy.