I do t really know what I want from this post. Maybe some solidarity but any advice would be welcome. I have one very high needs SEN child who takes a lot of my attention. My dd is SEN but not high needs. I always worry she doesn't get enough attention.
One problem I have is she is sooooo slow eating. If I sit and eat with the kids I can chive her along and it's like an hour but when high need some needs me my dd will sit and just get distracted and stare off I to space. This means when I am free to spend time with her all I do is nag her to eat as she's not eaten her dinner.
She's very intelligent and academically able and very well behaved. So I will never get any help form services/school for her. I kno this and my very challenging high needs kid barely gets any help and I've fought with mountains of evidence he needs support. My dd is just a daydreaming distractable gilr. But I'm certain she's inattentive ADHD.
Mostly I don't mind it's who she is. I'm very used to adapting to support the kids needs. But 2.5 hours just passed which her sat with her dinner while I dealt with her brother. I finally settled him and went to her to spend some time with her and I've got to nag her to eat as it's bed time soon and she's literally eaten a couple mouthfuls!
Is there a magic solution??