Hi all,
This may be a long post but please read and advise.
I have 3 children,2 of these children with my ex partner. I reported him to the police after going through his phone ( thought he was cheating) and found videos he had taken of my daughter in the shower. He's been arrested, it's under investigation, he no longer has bail restrictions but social services put a safe guarding plan in place which means he isn't allowed any unsupervised contact with children except mine. Originally he wasn't allowed any contact with mine but with my children having autism and wasn't coping with all the changes they social worker felt it was in the children's best interest to see him. I hate this but after seeing the difference the social worker was right. Now the case has gone to cps my ex no longer has bail restrictions but safety plan remains in place, however we've been discharged from social services with the safeguarding plan.
He has now moved in with his parents, my relationship with the grandparents is strained. They do however look after my children twice a week for me to work which I am grateful for but now they've asked if they could take my children away for a weekend, I trust them but I have a niggly doubt that my ex partner is going. They have reassured me he isn't, I don't think they would lie. I worry if I say no they'd stop having the kids for me to work, and also worry my ex won't give permission for me to take them abroad. Really sucks I need his permission. I don't want to fall out with them and I don't want my kids going. How would you guys handle this? I might sound selfish but I do need them to have my children for me to work it isn't just for the money, both children have additional needs and I find this as a respite too. I don't have family to give me respite from them I'm pretty much on my own.
Thanks