What was your autistic daughter like in her first 12 months?

Pluckpluckyplucked · 17/10/2024 20:58

The perfect baby, almost too easy (her twin was not)!
Slept well, breastfed but also took bottles of expressed milk, settled into a routine quickly, didn't like others holding her but was very cuddly with me/siblings (was quite overly attached is still now as a teen), basically as long as she could see me she was ok.
In contrast ds1 who also has a diagnosis of asd was classes as a high needs baby, never slept, didn't like being away from me, was hard to wean. Presents with a lot of what they often call the 'female traits'
No two asd people are the same.

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Newsenmum · 17/10/2024 22:00

Pluckpluckyplucked · 17/10/2024 20:58

The perfect baby, almost too easy (her twin was not)!
Slept well, breastfed but also took bottles of expressed milk, settled into a routine quickly, didn't like others holding her but was very cuddly with me/siblings (was quite overly attached is still now as a teen), basically as long as she could see me she was ok.
In contrast ds1 who also has a diagnosis of asd was classes as a high needs baby, never slept, didn't like being away from me, was hard to wean. Presents with a lot of what they often call the 'female traits'
No two asd people are the same.

Sounds like my daughter atm and my son sounds like yours.

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EndlessLight · 17/10/2024 22:37

Similar to pp. DD2 was my easiest baby. Slept well, breastfed OK but would take an expressed bottle too, weaned well, met all milestones… Autistic DS3 and ADHD/suspected autistic DS2 are another story.

LimeSqueezer · 17/10/2024 23:07

Eerily similar to @Pluckpluckyplucked . . . Are you me with my two autistic kids? Truly.

@Newsenmum, why do you ask?

TubDubDeRubTub · 11/11/2024 10:07

Pluckpluckyplucked · 17/10/2024 20:58

The perfect baby, almost too easy (her twin was not)!
Slept well, breastfed but also took bottles of expressed milk, settled into a routine quickly, didn't like others holding her but was very cuddly with me/siblings (was quite overly attached is still now as a teen), basically as long as she could see me she was ok.
In contrast ds1 who also has a diagnosis of asd was classes as a high needs baby, never slept, didn't like being away from me, was hard to wean. Presents with a lot of what they often call the 'female traits'
No two asd people are the same.

Very similar to my family. I was an easy baby. My sister wanted to be held all the time and cried when she wasnt. But only liked my dad really. My parents say she cried non stop the first 2/3 years of her life. My sister was diagnosed with ASD as a young child. I was diagnosed with ASD 4 months ago 😅

My DD is autistic and she was such a good baby, my best one. Slept well, fed well, loved cuddles off me, was funny with some people but I just assumed she was a mummies girl. Shes always been very set in her ways, very confident in her creative side. If someone had told me a year ago that me and DD were autistic I just wouldnt of believed it.

Justploddingonandon · 12/11/2024 11:13

The classic velcro baby, would only sleep if held (we would co-sleep but she would literally climb on top of me as soon as she was able to), cried if put down but only liked to be held by me or DH.

YouG0GlenCoco · 13/11/2024 22:28

Very quiet and easygoing, I used to say she's like a text book baby. Apart from sleep as she had to be cuddled/rocked to sleep. Also I know you only asked about first 12 months but as a toddler and preschooler she was so still so chilled, now I look back I can see she was passive at times. Never had terrible twos or tantrums.

NellyBarney · 15/11/2024 08:01

Didn't like breast, only bottle. Didn't like being cuddled, or at least cuddling, rocking etc wouldn't calm her. Never said mumma or dadda but at 6/7 month said her first word: 'laptop'. But never liked to chat, would use words just to ask for things. Lots of repetitive behaviour, like switching on and off light, opening and closing doors of toy car, counting to 100 by 13/14 months. But was able to laugh and enjoy games like peek-aboo (though that's very repetitive, too). Overall traits became more prominent the older she got.