My eldest (12) used to be only friends with a boy, and ended up at a different secondary.
Has really struggled with classmates to the extent where they also hate her both boys and girls.
She has clung to a friendship from primary into another of the classes but has today annoyed the whole group to the extent where theyve ignored her and one girl kicked her out of a whatsapp chat. Dd doesnt know what she has done she thinks she said something about preferring the other secondary. But it doesnt seem likely this is it.
Anyway with a friendship with the boy in 7 years they only had one 'fight' which he actually didnt notice where he hurt her throwing some stones etc.
She is just not used to 'girl drama' or watching what she says or girls trying to push each other out of groups etc.
Dd can be very difficult (doesnt sleep, quite negative etc).
It is true in my experience that girls do push others out. As im likely also autistic this did happen to me several times. (Issues with antenatal group and first year of uni etc.
Only really fitted in with the religious girls or ones from abroad.
I dont think dd will forgive the group for their reaction as its very drastic and mean and borders on bullying.
She is supposed to go to one of their parties tomorrow. Onky her second party invite in several years. But we will likely have to drop out as its at the kids house!
And only this group.
I dont get why everyone fights over a best friend and kids cant just be kind!
Frustrating as youngest in y3 is also starting to get the best friend issues too as she seems to prefer to be one of a group but then it felt sad when changing classes that she was not enough for the kids who were missing their best friends