Long story short. I have two children both neurological. My current partner of 3 years who is not their father has a son with autism, non verbal and complex needs, he is 7. My partner infact thinks he has adhd and believes his son inherited autism from him. This is only assumptions. His baby mom has another young child 2, seemingly neurological.
I have decided not to have anymore children because of the fear. How would I cope if our baby's needs were as complex, how would his son cope with such a big adjustment with a new baby ? There is always a doubt wondering but what if our baby was nt. He is the perfect partner and an amazing father and stepdaddy.
Just looking to know if anyone has been in a similar situation and went on to have children and what the outcome was ? I have researched lots online but the only thing throwing me is if we had a baby it would be a different make up of genes giving that obviously different mothers.
I hope this message makes sense and thank you in advance for any feedback and advice