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Hi everyone any advice would be nice please.
my son is struggling socially.
He is 3.5 years old suspected asd. Waiting for appointments. Speech delayed .

he can’t help him self to talk to strangers (babbles)
he constantly wants to be next to people he’s never met.
kissing random people that have given him any kind of attention (lips) it’s ever so quick that I can’t see it coming to stop him.
if doesn’t get the attention throwing anything near by smashing plates in restaurants throwing forks and knife’s at people’s tables.
running away from me outdoors constantly and laughing.
in play areas he’s interested with other parents and their kids more than me to the point he says go away to me.
shoving his fingers in adults mouths.
bassifally I don’t know how to go around this with a 3.5 year old with hardly any speech to understand what I’m trying to say to him. He thinks it’s all funny:( any recommendations?

people are always staring at us really horribly and feel like we’re highly judged.
I don’t see a lot of kids like him so it makes me wonder if this could be asd?
he’s constantly sensory seeking.
not potty trained
anyone else got a asd child with similar social issues ? Can this be asd or is this normal?

hv referred to peeds. (Declined)
speech and language therapist has referred to peeds and ot. Waiting response.

I can’t really give your advice but I have a 3.7 year old like it and I wouldn’t even say it’s age related because she’s always been like it, she is waiting to see paediatrician this month so I’m hoping they can help, she has signs of asd / adhd but I feel there is something more that I’m missing with how she becomes obsessive with stranger, sometimes familiar people too but often they are men. She talks to anyone but then bounces when they reply to her, she will join in with other families and talks to the parent like it’s hers and tells there child off, would happily follow them away not worrying at all if I’m there, she’s a nightmare outside meltdowns and runs off or sits in her own little world, no sense of danger, clear sensory issues, triggered by a lot even positive praise, psychical toward children and adults and the list goes on. I did look at PDA and it would make sense for her needs and it goes alongside asd / adhd. I feel for you I know it’s hard, my daughter is my 5th child and I’ve never met a child like her 😵‍💫 hopefully the paediatrician can tell me more

Is the SALT providing ongoing support? Whether it is ASD or not, it doesn’t sound like typical development. Does DS attend nursery?

For the running away from you outdoors, you need reins or a buggy.

As difficult as it is, DS needs close supervision so he can’t, e.g. put his fingers in others’ mouths.

Salt says he doesn’t need their support atm salt has written a report saying my sons are like this because she thinks he’s got sensory problems - put him through to ot
and that he should be seen by a peeds- so referred him.
she said his language is processing and that she thinks the reason why he’s delayed is because of an underlying issue there for peeds should apparently help me .
she’s the salt for those who are nonverbal highly specialist therapist and thinks his issues are other things and that she’s not too concerned about his language as it’s getting better?
im struggling and worrying that the referrals are going to be another decline !
I can’t control my son anymore he’s also very aggresive to me.
nursery are saying he’s ok there they have no problems(highly masking) so they are refusing to offer me any support:(
please help

I would push back on the SALT. DS does need their input, even if there is an underlying reason. If the SALT you saw isn’t the right person/team with the SALT service, she needs to refer on to whoever is the right person.

Request a meeting with the SENCO. They should be providing support. Is DS in a school nursery? Have you requested an EHCNA?

My son's 3.5 and a lot of what you've mentioned sounds like him, he's on the autism pathway, unfortunately paeds are delayed and we're waiting on a follow up appointment, so no diagnosis yet but they very much agree with us that it's very likely autism. He's non speaking, SLT gave us 2 hours before saying we'll reassess him this month, but to be honest as he's not ready for PECS or AAC yet, i m expecting the NHS to say he can stay on our lists but you're not getting another therapy block. we've been told that paeds will discharge him once he has a diagnosis. (Been refused OT by the NHS as they don't cover sensory issues in our area) There is so much online on sensory diets so I've been trying to learn things ourselves. So we have things like sensory mats, a ball pit, climbing frame outside to redirect too when he's needing that sensory input

We're in the middle of the EHCP process, as getting support in primary school is the only help he's going to get once he leaves nursery (they are quite supportive as he really doesn't mask whatsoever). we've been getting DLA since last year, didn't need a diagnosis for that, so we've used that for sensory toys. In all honesty, he's in his pram as a safe space out and about or he's supervised 24/7, we've made our peace for now that as his sensory seeking is so extreme someone has to have eyes on him or if he plays in room we have a camera on him.