TA chatting to other parents about SEN son

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Hi, I'm having a bit of a year of it settling DS2 into Reception - it became apparent really quickly that he is ND, and I'm guessing it's some kind of sensory processing disorder. School have been great, hand held us through the first steps of the EHCP process, he sees an OT, and accesses lots of support that's really helping.

But he's not settled into the mainstream class at all, has largely been on a part time timetable, no parties, playdates or anything. But we've just got on with it - he's doing awesomely and in his own way is taking massive steps.

Anyway one of the parents has started as the class TA recently, and a Mum I see at swimming said to me today "Oh [TA] said DS had a bad day on Monday, that's a shame, he was doing so much better"

As far as I'm aware there's no reason for this ta to be talking about DS to other parents and I'm a bit miffed and upset. DH says to let them have one strike, but the thought of DS who has struggled so much being the fodder for gossip has upset me a lot, but I'm not sure how to broach it

Any ideas? Or am I just overreacting? Is this just par for the course if a parent is a teacher/ ta in their child's class?

This would upset me and I'm not sure they are meant/allowed to do this. I would get some advice (to see if any rule have been broken) and contact the head teacher to say you are not happy for staff to discuss your child in this way with other parents.
Both of my dcs had very reduced timetables, not necessarily 'coping' with mainstream class environment, but making progress and making me proud. The whole 'settling in' and trying to ehcp into place is stressful you don't need this stress added.

I would complain. The TA should not be discussing DS with other parents.

As an aside, why is DS on a part-time timetable? Is the school informally excluding DS or is it your decision because DS isn’t yet CSA or DS is CSA but can’t attend full-time because of his MH/SEN (and not just because the school say he can’t attend)?

Thanks so much both, I think I'm reluctant because I feel like I'm officially becoming that mother.

@BrumToTheRescue school put him on a PT timetable because he was so disregulated in the first term he wasn't coping. So he does phonics and writing, a bit of playtime and has lunch then I pick him up. We're just extending the day now but on a sensory level he just finds it too busy? He doesn't seem to be able to regulate at school/ or school can't help him regulate so of an afternoon with me we bake, colour, garden, walk in the woods, just do kind of grounding low demand things.

The school is unlawfully informally excluding DS. If you want him to attend full-time he can unless the school formally suspend him and a part-time timetable should not be used to manage behaviour and it should not be used long term (the exception being if it is your choice for DS to attend part-time because he isn’t yet CSA). If you don’t think DS can attend full-time and DS is CSA you should request alternative provision as well as part time school or instead of school. IPSEA has a model letter you can use to do this.

Can I ask what CSA stands for?

Compulsory school age