DS (9) has recently been referred by his school for an Autism assessment, so we’re right at the beginning of the SEN journey and not sure where to turn for help & advice until he has been assessed. It’s the social aspect that he has been struggling with more & more as he’s got older and not really connecting with his classmates. He has very set black and white thinking and everything being fair. Sometimes he has loudly voiced his disapproval of people breaking rules in public before and we’ve told him that it isn’t anything to do with him and not to worry or comment about other people’s behaviour as it doesn’t affect him. However he’s starting to get very stressed about his classmates not following the rules and he’s saying he doesn’t like school because of this. We don’t know how to help him understand the difference between important rules & laws that are there so people don’t get hurt and the social rules that kids naturally break / rebel against as they get older like not talking in class or something. He really struggles to ignore it and it is starting to upset him plus Its not helping him make friends. We can say ignore what other people do and just worry about you, but he doesn’t seem able to shut this out.
Can any more experienced parents share any tips on how we can help him deal with this please?