Help! Safeguarding at school

[SafeguardingHelpPlease]

Hi
I've NC for this as could be outing.
My DS12 is year 7. He has ND issues, yet to be diagnosed, likely ADHD possibly ASD.

Anyway, at school last week him and another child who has 'anger issues' had a kerfuffle, other boy was annoying DS and kept on singing and humming, even after the teacher had told him to be quiet multiple times, my DS reacted (shoving his books), and they got split up because it escalated a bit. The boy then, hours later in a different lesson, started on again at DS and was pretending to make models of DS and then ripping them apart, teasing him at first, then being more aggressive by smashing up and tearing up these models that the boy said was DS. My son physically reacted (shoved him) and the boy mirrored. It ended up that this boy then flipped, was trying to chase DS around the classroom, him and another child were stuck behind a table whilst this boy was ranting. They got split up and my son was a bit distressed, apparently the boy went 'on a rampage' (words from a staff member) looking for DS after school, so I picked DS up. There was also a concern because a piece of art equipment (sharp, longish thin metal needle) was missing, children said this boy had it, but when searched he wasn't found on him.
This boy wasn't there the day after, all the children were assuming boy had been suspended, but the day after he turned up in DS classes as normal - we weren't told he was coming in (the day before my DS wouldn't go to school, I phoned and they encouraged me to get him in saying he wouldn't see the boy as he wasn't in school.
We were quite shocked to find out this boy came in the next day and they were put together as normal!

What should we be asking g as parents for school to do for safeguarding? My DS is a really good child, but does react when provoked, and naturally people provoke him. This other child is known amongst the children at school to be a child with 'issues' and 'anger issues' and has physically shoved other people at school
Help please MN massive what do I do at school!
I've written to them asking for a meeting refund safeguarding of my my DS but the other boy too- clearly they should be separated somehow

At the meeting focus on DS and how his needs can be better met and how he can be kept safe. The school should not discuss the other pupil’s needs or any consequences. Depending on the timetable, separate classes may not be possible, but you could ask the school look at seating plans and for staff to be aware when doing group work. You could also ask if there is a TA in the lessons and if not if it is possible (unlikely this will be possible anywhere near full-time unless either child has an EHCP).

What support for his additional needs is DS receiving?

Thanks @Headfirstintothewild
DS is given TA support, can learn in the learning centre 2 periods a day and he's ok with that. His needs are changing as I think he's going through puberty, when DD did the same her ASD developed into someone more than it was prior to puberty and can see DS starting to struggle eg with noises, busy-ness around him etc which is what happened in class and triggered him.
Thankfully the boy is being sat in different parts of the classroom today, just concerned he may flip
Out as he has form for this ... hence anger issues (other boy, not my DS)

Does DS have an EHCP? If not you should request an EHCNA.

Is the TA support full-time? If so, they should be intervening before the situation between the boys escalates. If it isn’t full-time, this is what an EHCP could provide.

Unfortunately our council EA doesn't provide money 🤯 via EHCP bit not heard of the other route so will check

Doesn't have a full time TA but he does get a lot of TA support. Hoping once he gets diagnoses they can do more TA support

A diagnosis won’t automatically result in additional support. Support, including via an EHCP, is based on needs, not diagnosis.

Don’t focus on the funding. The LA can’t have a blanket policy of EHCP not having funding and it isn’t true. Provision detailed, specified and quantified in F of an EHCP must be provided. If it isn’t it can be enforced. If the school needs more funding they should approach the LA. So, focus on getting the TA support detailed, specified and quantified in F. If DS already has an EHCP, do this by requesting an early review. If DS doesn’t already have an EHCP, do this by requesting an EHCNA.