ADHD? Dyspraxia? Or just a normal 4 yo

[Mummyofthewildones]

Apologies in advance for the long post.
My DD4 is a very lively, outgoing and funny girl.
She finds it hard to calm down at the end of the day, and hard to settle down if she has been wound up (either in a positive or a negative way).
Back before Christmas her 2 reception teachers mentioned she appears quite uncoordinated, in terms of falling over, and "not really having control of her limbs all the time".
At this point I wasn't really too concerned, im clumsy and always have been similar to this. However, at her recent parents evening they have suggested I take her to the GP to be assessed as alongside this she has trouble focusing on tasks, and is very easily distracted, often found to be looking around the classroom rather than doing what she is meant to be doing.
She is never still, even when we are sat cuddling she is always fidgeting or moving a limb. She is doing incredibly well with her reading and maths, but apparently struggles with writing and is a little behind her peers with this. She does struggle with persisting at things, and gets frustrated very easily when she doesn't get how to do something first time.
Quite often she has little wee accidents because she doesn't go to the loo as soon as she needs to, and she doesn't really focus on one thing for very long at all when she's playing.
She is such a sweetheart, but she needs attention almost constantly, finds it hard not to interrupt when others are talking, and doesn't enjoy playing on her own.
I'm just wondering whether this resonates with anyone on here as what this could potentially mean? Or whether she just sounds like a normal 4yo?
I'm aware GPs arent likely to refer on for further assessment until a child is 5 in our area, and I'm not sure what the benefit is in getting her seen at the moment.
Just wondered if the collective wisdom of MN could help me? Thanks!

If the school has suggested investigation I would listen. The GP doesn’t need to wait until 5, so I would challenge that. Depending on the area, you may even be able to self refer or get the school to refer.

In the meantime, have you spoken to the SENCO and what support is the school providing?

Thank you for taking the time to reply.
No, I haven't asked any of those questions, and they didn't really seem to have any ideas when I asked if there was anything I could do at home to help or support her!
But those are helpful suggestions, thank you.
We do have a GP appt, it was meant to be today but unfortunately half term sick bug has hit so I rearranged to next week.
Perhaps I'll hold fire til we have seen the GP, then approach the teachers again regarding SENCO and support once I have the GPs response.
Thanks again, this is all very unknown territory for me so I really appreciate your advice.

Definitely speak to the SENCO. The school should be providing support.

For home, do you have any sensory equipment or a trampoline or similar? This booklet is quite good and this website.

Great, thank you. There are a lot of things that resonate on the "not sensitive enough" categories for touch and movement.
Those resources are really helpful and interesting, just had a look and the SENCO is the headteacher, who seems very on it with most things so hopefully that's promising. Thanks again, I'll update when we have seen GP.
DD would love a trampoline, I know it!

>I'm aware GPs arent likely to refer on for further assessment until a child is 5 in our area,

?? My son had an assessment with a pediatrician when he was 3 years old. His speech was delayed and she referred him to an audiologist who diagnosed him with glue ear ( all sorted out ).
GP will refer you to the pediatrician. Also contact the school and ask if the SEN department can refer you to community peadiatrician.

My 14 year old dd diagnosed dysbraxia I've only recently got her assessed her score is 70 which is severe she also has dyscalculia which is maths dyslexia

My youngest is 9 and waiting for assessment for adhd. The emotional dysregulation is awful. Constantly in school parents kicking of at me etc.

When she was little I e age 3 and 4 I had to ensure she kept away from ither kids she was expelled from childminder as kept hitting thus little boy for no reason l, then her first school well she just hit everyone. Her speech was delayed but we did x3 courses.

Point being unless your wanting it for dla purposes wouldn't bither yet

Thank you for the further responses. Ive looked into the process in our area and it seems paeds wouldnt assess til age 6. I'm not interested in getting any financial input for her. We aren't well off by any means but I wouldn't want to take that away from a family who really needs it.
All I want is to make sure that I, and any other important people in her life understand her as best we can, to help her be happy and healthy.

what helped my son is attending mixed martial arts. He didn't like it much but his coordination improved. Here in London the pediatrician will see you at any age and if he/she decides to state the diagnosis, she will. Or if she decides to wait- she will. Just go and see the pediatrician and see what happens.