I know this is a very difficult one as children with SEN are so different and have different abilities BUT where do you draw the line between supporting your dc and expecting them to take some responsibility?
My DD11 is driving me to distraction at the moment with getting ready… in the mornings particularly but also in the evening. Today she came downstairs, 30 mins after being woken, 15 mins before we need to leave, half dressed complaining the tights I’d given her were too big! She hadn’t eaten breakfast, no hair done, still needed to do her teeth after breakfast. I’d checked on her intermittently and so had DH. 🤯
She has asd and adhd so I know these things can be hard but I do all the things, break it down for her, I do her bag, I get her stuff set out for her to put on. All she needed to do is put her clothes on and eat and she can’t seem to even do that! She’s VERY bright so it’s not an understanding issue.
I’ve said she needs to start going to bed earlier until she can get up and get ready timously. 10 mins earlier every time she’s late downstairs (I’ve asked her to be downstairs dressed 30 mins before we leave and I give her plenty of help and reminders to achieve this)
Does sound reasonable? What else can I do. Short of physically dressing her, which I can’t realistically do at her age, I’m not sure what else I can do.
as background she has ups and downs about school but things are pretty good at the moment save for this getting ready issue.