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School refusing

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MightyGoldBear · 05/02/2024 09:16

Any help of advice for school refusing?

6 year old boy on the wait list for assessment school do know and have tried to support but he can't really tell us more than he doesn't like school doesn't find it fun. I suspect some anxiety. School think he has low proprioception so they do taking breaks and time for big movements. At home we have lots of heavy work and sensory toys/tools. Lots of talk about how we can regulate our emotions and talikg about feelings. We limit sugar and keep a strict routine of bedtime as that really helps him.

I believe he finds school hard because he is masking but he does it so well I feel school don't really believe us when we say he is struggling. Or that he needs the level of support he does.

He hates school uniform hates he can't have choice and dress in whatever he wants.

We are looking into a private assessment but need to save the money. I don't drive so I can't take him into school later but I'm not sure my husbands work would let him do that regularly. It's getting harder and harder to get him into school (usually on a school bus)

He ideally would love if they could do forest school everyday but school don't have the support to do that. We couldn't afford a private montessori type school.

Just feeling a bit lost with it all. Surrounded by lots of people with the mentality of life's hard he just needs to go🙄
As a child who also hated school I don't want him to struggle like I did and endure it for years. I would home school if that's the only solution but I'm not sure financially or if I'd be capable enough. Plus he absolutely loves his friends at school is very social.

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SearchingForSolitude · 05/02/2024 09:33

Have you spoken to the SENCO? Other than the movement breaks what support is the school providing? Does DS have an EHCP?

Personally I wouldn’t EHE. Parents often find it easier to get support if their DC remains in the system. That way the LA retain responsibility. Whereas if you EHE the LA will say you are making suitable alternative arrangements thereby relieving them of their duty. It is easier for professionals to sweep DC’s needs under the carpet. Instead I would request an EHCNA or, if DS already has an EHCP, an early review. If in the meantime DS can’t attend school the LA has a duty to ensure he receive alternative provision.

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