Hello! I'm new but found this thread and piping up as I'm going through an EHCP application at the moment for my 11 year old daughter. I've always had trouble getting her into school and she's always been a bit 'quirky'. I asked school for their observations when she was in year 5 as something didn't feel right but they didn't really want to admit that something was off. Since starting High school, my poor girl has completely crumbled. She has not been in school for a full week since September, in fact I am often called to collect her after 20 minutes or so as she is screaming the place down. She cannot handle the noise, the busy-ness, navigating the school, all the different teachers, etc, etc. My husband and son are both ASD, and son is also ADHD but DD presents in an entirely different way to them
High school immediately applied (with my consent) for an EHCP withing days of her starting there, she is currently on enhanced SEN support but they cannot offer anything further without the EHCP. They are flabbergasted that her junior school failed to picked anything up. I have engaged a private clinic to get an official diagnosis as the NHS waiting list is appalling. So after an initial appointment, we are in the process of getting her screened for ASD, PDA, SPD and DCD (lots of letters!).
We have a 'yes to assess' from the LA for the EHCP and have a meeting with the Ed Psych next week. So far, so good. It has been surprisingly smooth. But this waiting in limbo is so, so difficult. Do I send my poor girl to school and stress her out endlessly (we're talking full on blood curdling screams from the minute I leave until the minute I collect her). DD is adamant that she needs to change schools, she wants a smaller school but as far as I can see, these issues are going to follow her unless she is in a specialist school with very few children and not so much moving around the premises. She also has low muscle tone and extreme hypermobility which must be so painful and exhausting for her. She is apparently 4 years behind her peers socially and emotionally.
So that's my journey so far. I've never been through this process and feel like I'm floundering around in the dark. I have no idea what happens on an EHCP - whether I get to choose a school, if she's 'bad' enough to even get a place in a specialist school. She's not currently accessing any formal education - school have just agreed to put her on a reduced timetable but she has not yet attended any lessons this year - when she does go in she is in a safe space doing colouring in between the screaming. I've been advised to apply for a 'short breaks' programme and told I can apply for DLA. But I have to say, I'm not enjoying the endless form filling and discussions detailing how rubbish my beautiful child is so I have not gone ahead with either of those things yet. Nobody seems to care how amazing she is and that she's funny and kind with a great sense of humour, that she gives the best cuddles. This process is nasty business!
Anyhoo, thanks for the rant!!!