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Family not excepting my son's disability

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magicallySparkle88 · 14/10/2023 20:16

How can family be so judgmental and not excepting of my son?!
This is the second time, they have disregarded his disability for being naughty and rude.
My son at the start of the week was excluded, for pushing book case over, over not having something he thought was in his bag.
His schooling hours are now only 3 hours a week until another placement is put in place.

I confided in my family after this. Then it was my nieces birthday. We had arrived at my sisters and I was questioned and made to feel like Iv failed as a parent. I responded by saying” you can’t make me feel worse than I already do” with that, my son was playing outside with his cousins and their friend.
They were playing push tag before we turned up and my son wanted to play. I explained to him just to tag and that I am watching. My son and the friend were only ones playing outside at the time. With trying to watch my son and being questioned.
Suddenly the friend was crying and my sister got up and started instantly shouting at my son.
My son got very emotionally upset, tears streaming down his face. We were both told to leave.
Without knowing exactly what had happened.
We were both in floods of tears on the way home.
My son said he didn’t do anything other than tag him. Then he tripped over.
I know instantly if my son is lying he always looks away.
This is the second time this sort of thing has happened. I’m at the point now, where the best thing is to just cut them off. Family should be supportive, not breaking you down, making you feel your the worst parent.
The news has now spread like wild fire throughout the family. I had messages from other family members. I feel the only right thing to do is no contact. Focus purely on my son. It just breaks my heart

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YellowRosesWithRedTips · 15/10/2023 10:28

I’m sorry your family isn’t being supportive.

Can you avoid large gatherings and try meeting 1:1 or very small groups?

How old is DS? Is the suspension formal? Or an unlawful informal exclusion?

magicallySparkle88 · 15/10/2023 14:31

YellowRosesWithRedTips · 15/10/2023 10:28

I’m sorry your family isn’t being supportive.

Can you avoid large gatherings and try meeting 1:1 or very small groups?

How old is DS? Is the suspension formal? Or an unlawful informal exclusion?

My son is 8 years old. He was suspected for 1 day. Due to pushing a book case over. He couldn't control his emotions. Didn't have have his sensory ball in his bag.
I have wrote down so many questions, for meeting on the 6th of nov. I feel it is unlawful, it was something out of his control the way he impulsively reacted.

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YellowRosesWithRedTips · 15/10/2023 16:51

If DS has only been suspended for 1 day why is he only attending 3hrs a week? It sounds like an unlawful, informal exclusion.

Does DS have an EHCP?

magicallySparkle88 · 15/10/2023 19:48

YellowRosesWithRedTips · 15/10/2023 16:51

If DS has only been suspended for 1 day why is he only attending 3hrs a week? It sounds like an unlawful, informal exclusion.

Does DS have an EHCP?

Yeah he has an echp in place. I feel as though the school has just wiped their hands off him. They only allow him in on the 3 days, hour each day, because a lady comes in and does 1 to 1 with him. I feel it's so unfair.

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YellowRosesWithRedTips · 15/10/2023 20:52

Have you requested an early review of the EHCP?

This is an unlawful exclusion. If you want DS to attend full time he can unless the school is going to formally suspend/exclude him.

Also, the LA has a duty to provide a suitable, full time education to those unable to attend school. Email the Director of Children’s Services requesting provision under s19 of the Education Act 1996. The LA must also ensure anything detailed, specified and quantified in F is provided.

magicallySparkle88 · 16/10/2023 20:21

YellowRosesWithRedTips · 15/10/2023 20:52

Have you requested an early review of the EHCP?

This is an unlawful exclusion. If you want DS to attend full time he can unless the school is going to formally suspend/exclude him.

Also, the LA has a duty to provide a suitable, full time education to those unable to attend school. Email the Director of Children’s Services requesting provision under s19 of the Education Act 1996. The LA must also ensure anything detailed, specified and quantified in F is provided.

Iv requested an early echp meeting. Which is being held on the 6th of November.
There is not much communication. I feel it is confusing my son by being at home most the time. It feels so unfair.

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