Suspected autistic 2 year old

[Becs14]

Hi, I was just looking for any advice/ positive words or stories please.
I'm feeling very overwhelmed at the moment. My little boy is 27 months old and I really suspect that he is autistic. All the referrals have been made but obviously the waiting list here is years long. He has just started speech therapy aswell.
I only started to notice signs when he was around 20 months. I thought he was just a late talker but I didn't even realise he wasn't using gestures really.
It came more apparent when he started a new nursery in April and we had a phonecall from the manager saying she thinks he has autistic traits. He's been pretty good at the nursery overall, seems to enjoy but I've been off work lately and has become very clingy to me, he's also been ill a lot and today he become upset there towards the end and they said he was throwing his head back. (He seems to do this when he can't communicate what is wrong with him and if he's in pain, but this doesn't happen often)
He's very busy and has quite a few signs. He is a very loving little boy and has a lovely smile to us and strangers and he is our world but I worry so much about the future for him and at the minute it's too overwhelming and I get upset all the time. Even just to speak about it to someone I start welling up. I'm also not sure whether I should mention it to some of my friends yet.
I'm not sure the point of my post really, but if anyone has any positive stories or anything I'd appreciate it very much

Hi

I don't have much advice but I completely understand. My 6 year old was diagnosed with Autism last year, as you said the waiting list was long and the process was just as long too. HV picked up on it before my DD turned 1. She also did the head stimming too.

I completely understand what you mean with feeling emotional about it all, I did too, I realised that I felt emotional about the unknown for my child and for me too, But there is so much help and support out there. My DD is in mainstream school (fighting for ECHP is another thing) but she's supported so well from the school.

I felt the same about telling friends, I hate it when people say "Everyone's got a diagnosis these days" but thats because there's more research and knowledge about these conditions.

It sounds like your child has a very supportive and aware Mum fighting in his corner. All I would suggest is you make a diary of any behaviour that concerns you. My DD also loved and still does, sensory play, this might help your child too.

The referrals have been made and there's not much you can do now so try to breath. Big hugs xxx