To feel like I can’t take much more

[Croco]

DS (2.5) is non verbal and doesn’t understand what is being said to him at all which I think makes all of this even more difficult. As much as I love him I’ve completely had enough. This is my life with him on a daily basis..
He takes his nappy off all of the time and will wee and poo on the floor
He will get undressed which results in me having to get him back dressed just for him to get undressed again
If he has a drink he will spit it out on the carpet
He has ruined my living room. He has pulled all of the blinds down, ripped wallpaper, he throws things so I’ve had a number of ornaments broke
He will hit, pinch, bite and pull my hair every day. He had hold of my hair before and I’m not exaggerating but he wouldn’t let go
The list is endless

This is literally an all day, every day thing. I have tried disciplining him in different ways, but nothing works. Any advice?

I agree with pps that a good SEN-savvy nursery could really help you both here.

As well as SALT, paeds, portage, etc. that have already been mentioned, look at an OT referral (in some areas you can self refer. If you can’t, the GP or HV will be able to). Home Start may be able to support you, too.

Some areas have specialist playgroups &/or nursery places that don’t require an EHCP, so ask around about those.