Asd, adhd or just bad parenting?

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My son has a number of behavioural issues; he elopes, hits other children, jumps on children, takes children's toys. He never interacts with children it's like they don't exist but wants to hold other parents hands, will get angry with me if I say he can't runs away from me all the time, has little Speach but is getting better.
His pediatrican thinks he has something but he can't have an assessment yet they're gathering evidence.. but I'm going crazy wondering if I'm just imagining all this and maybe I need to work on my parenting..

The paed wouldn’t have suggested further assessment if they didn’t think it was warranted.

I’m sorry to hear about your son and anxieties about it. I would recommend reading up on adhd and ASD and parent as if he has them. I had a lot more patience, and a lot less worry about my parenting style, when I did this. Eventually they were diagnosed but the wait can be years and you need to look after yourself and raise your son in the meantime. I can’t see that using the techniques and approaches recommended for autistic kids or kids with adhd will harm a kid without them.

Also if your kid is neurodiverse it is possible that you or his father also does - it can be useful to look around the extended family too. This can help you to manage your parenting style. Eg if you think you may have adhd, you may be parenting inconsistently because of a lack of organisational skills etc (this happens to me). Knowing these tendencies can help you to get on top of things a bit more. Google Headstuff ADHD for some
advice and tips etc.

It’s quite a big deal on a personal level, getting to grips with all of this stuff. But as I look around me I have become aware or multiple super-successful families with various members of the family showing neurodiverse traits. Of course the kids need specific support to achieve their potential but at the same time, if you/they have the hyper focus and drive and/or obsessions that can accompany neurodiversity, it is possible to really get things done and have a brilliant and fabulously quirky life.