ADHD Girl as adult

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Hi
My 14y old daughter has inattentive and impulse adhd. She's higher ability (CaT score 115) & on 2 mediations

Still many issues psychiatrist says won't change

• can't wake up herself despite alarms
• struggles to organise self
• is spiky eg did well in maths exam then falls and cuts arm / forgets PE kit / forgets to shower

Other things assell. She's got tuition at home and school looking to give extra time

My friend worried me yesterday when she said 'your DD won't cope at uni or college will she'

I don't know anyone with mainly inattentive adhd girls as young women. What are they like regarding life management?

Thanks

I don't have a diagnosis (waiting for assessment) but I believe I have ADHD. College was really hard for me and I scraped by, basically, having been pretty good at school. I didn't want to put my self through the hell that uni would have been so I didn't. After a period of aimless depression I got an apprenticeship and then a job, I could have could be very highly paid (£80k+) from about 25 but I had a child who is ND and very needy and then another never ending family disaster happened, and I'm struggling, still earning an average salary on few hours though. I'm struggling with managing all of it now and would like to quit working to cut out some of the noise. My executive functioning is poor, I am constantly over stimulated, probably in burn out but too busy to have time to notice.

Who says you DD has to take the path that goes through uni, if it doesn't suit her she'd probably be better off finding something that does.

Thanks for your response

What was your former career in ? My DD is excellent with social side, IT, some maths and arts. Trying to encourage her into programming type people work !!

😅 exactly like your DD, Web developer. Good at maths, art and IT, as well as French and sciences. My apprenticeship was actually with a French IT company

Hi. I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 48, and only considered that I might have it because I was reading up on ADHD on behalf of my DS and when I got to the section on women with ADHD, it all sounded a bit too familiar. As a girl, and now: clutter/ managing "stuff" is a significant challenge; lost and continue to lose keys/ phones/ wallets/ passports/ gloves/ some days, my mind; delayed onset sleep disorder my whole life(fall asleep late, wake up late). IQ put me in "highly gifted" category but I struggled in school, university, grad school keeping my notes organised, did all my essays at the very last minute: many all-nighters fuelled by caffeine and adrenaline.

There are a LOT of ADHD people in IT/ Web Development, also in marketing, Emergency Medicine and Entrepreneurship.

I have 2 DC and a DH all classed as mixed presenting mainly as Inattentive and classed as severe

Both DC needed support and organisation help especially at exam times but both are now at University and positively thriving. They have so much support in place, special software to help with planning and keeping on track

Yes, it’s harder for them but don’t let your friend write your DD off

As for careers, DH has a very responsible job and is unmedicated, he developed coping strategies over the years and works in a role that plays to his strengths. Both DC are studying subjects that also play to their strengths