ND DD 8 years and started her period

[supercali77]

I posted a while back about my DD who's 8 going through a really rough time. We are on cahms pathway for a diagnosis, had initial interview and been forwarded on for dx, but we're looking at another year on the wait list. Suspected autism, shes verbal, her main issues are rigidity, rules, emotional regulation, sensory issues.

Shes always been this way, e.g. difficulty emotionally regulating compared to peers. Meltdowns etc. However as she's aged these have become manageable. Generally she can manage with friends and outdoors on busy places now. Except...since Xmas. Its been hellish, crying and running away at playdates for protracted periods. Having to go home bevause she's scared. It came out of the blue. In Jan...she had some brownish staining in her underwear, school called me and said they think it's her period. I was shocked. Took her to gp who said she had an infection. That was treated. She got better on the next outdoors playdate. I figured, great she just had an infection. Then we tried another playdate at the weekend and she was hysterical, said she didn't 'feel right' wanted to go home very upset. Last night, 28 days after the last time and she has bloody undies again. So, seems like she has her period. How do I explain this to her? It was mentioned infront of her the first time and she got very upset 'but im just a child'. Should I bother again? Get her a book? Or wait and just go with it each month until she's maybe a bit more settled? Also, I'm wondering how long it might take for such a small child to adjust to these hormone surges?

I'd go back to the GP. This seems very young (but maybe not these days?)

@TeenDivided Thats what I thought but school said they have 2 other 8 year old who've started!! I couldn't believe it. I will take her back though I'm pretty sure this is what it is. The emotional turmoil coincides with the few days before it

That is so young for her to cope with.
My DD was in denial and she was 11 at the time I think.

I know, I feel so bad for her xx

My dd is 9 we have a book and talk about it often. I made sure to tell her it ghas nothing to do with end of childhood as this point did worry her. I told her it's a part of childhood just as teeth falling out and new ones growing. Nothing to help the emotional turmoil sorry- try to keep those days free as possible no activities or pkaydates until she adjusts.

being on a nd pathway might be a very good reason to have her menses delayed a few years. i would speak to the gp.