Tips for helping the non-SEN sibling?

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I am in tears this morning.

First day of nursery for my 1 year old DS. He barely got a goodbye or a kiss. Just bundled into the car and off her went.

Because I spent 2 hours this morning with my ASD older DS in meltdown.

My 1 year old just stood there, holding his teddy, waiting until we could leave. Just watching. Everyone always tells me how independent and resilient my 1 year old is - he never cries, plays independently - but it's because 99% of my time I'm supporting my ASD 3 year old.

First day at nursery - he should have had some attention. I just have an image of him standing at the door in his coat just waiting.

How do people do it?

It's so hard, I wish I had a solution, but the squeaky wheel gets the most oil. Try to arrange doing things 1-1 with each child, they really do love the attention. It helps a bit!

Oh bless you. I’ve no advice other than wanting to give you a hug x

Aw, that sounds really upsetting. Can you split tasks with your partner if you have one so one child always gets one parent’s full attention?