My daughter is 8 and we strongly suspect she has ADHD. Her behaviour at home is also very difficult to manage. She is being assessed privately in March. She likely also has dyslexia though we are putting that to one side until we know about the ADHD.
At the moment we are paying for her to attend an independent girls school. We recognised from the age of 4 that she needed a quieter environment, although had no insight into why back then. She has always been sensitive to noise and needs her environment to be boundaried and safe. She also needs to be kept busy. Before this school she attended a day nursery where she didn't thrive and a nursery at a private school which ended up in her experiencing a lot of anxiety so we withdrew her.
Assuming we get a diagnosis in March, my question is really - what next? Would an EHCP be of benefit to her? What else can we be doing that might help her and us?
Right now she is performing averagely for her cohort but the school now recognise that her potential is higher (her middle of the road performance has meant that her difficulties have gone undetected so far). She finds it difficult to follow instructions and constantly asks for help, makes careless mistakes, won't practice tasks she finds difficult, finds writing challenging particularly in terms of developing content whilst also thinking about spelling and punctuation. She is also distracted by noise and others in the classroom. Her verbal ability is much higher and is very engaging in conversation. She doesn't challenge adults at school but will ask why she has to do something. At home, behaviour can be explosive and this scares her younger brother and makes home life fraught.
Any advice from others who have been through similar gratefully received.