Why nursery teacher tried her best to disagree with nhs consultant about referal of Asperger

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I am new to this.
i am puzzled why a half educated nursery teacher who met my kid less than 2 months was determined to fill out all nhs forms that she firmly firmly believe my DS has no Asperger / autism . ( and I heard inside gossip she thinks badly of my parenting and think my DS is product with side effect of my parenting skills & prejudice of my ethnic root ) . For example : when DS anxious about crowd noise or forest dark path . The nursery teacher would email me or tell me : you and your kid are anxious !!! You need to take him to all play date and clubs and parties . This will fix all issues . He has no Asperger !!!

in the end , nhs consultant stood his ground and saying he disagree with her . And insist for CAMHS referal . Thanks to him. This was not delayed .

i am so confused by this nursery teacher motive . Is she a foreign mum hater ? Or narcissistic ? Or some financial motive for stop any kids got properly checked out by nhs ? Why you so confident about your own judgments against nhs when my DS in her class less than 2 months ? Power battle ?

I think you are thinking too deep about the situation. It is far more likely to stem from a lack of knowledge and understanding of what autism is.

BTW Asperger Syndrome is no longer diagnosed, it is all encompassed under ASD now.

How old is your little one? Our nursery were reluctant to see any problems for a long time because they know that kids can develop at different rates. When she got old enough that it became clear (to everyone!) it was a problem and not just being slow to hit milestones they switched and have been very supportive with SEN stuff. Could be similar for you?

Someone says it’s because school very hard to get fund from EHCP / council ? And school doesn’t want to waste own money and resource so they just dismiss it or or or someone also said school teacher can’t deal with difficult kids so they call mums to come take kids home and go get SEN help.
i am confused with above contradiction of views.

he is 6. Other teachers of each year group all pick up something . He been seen by OT and speech therapist thanks to them . even if I pay but thanks to them not missing out anything during school days observation .

only this 1 teacher she blaming him for being anxious then blaming me anxious and filling out 5 pages to nhs saying : no Asperger . They r anxious people .
but she has reputation of full of herself anyway just talked with other mums today .

nhs say sorry no we disagree with school we insist on CAMHS

after we left her in June . we were in her class only April to June . And unfortunately during these 3 months she is THE teacher who happens to have to fill out nhs form about autism questionary and post out back to nhs directly . “ no Asperger ! “

In September new teacher picking up something new straight away and offering support asap.

Support in schools and EHCPs are based on needs not diagnosis, so that’s irrelevant. Sometimes schools do try to illegally exclude, but again they don’t do that based on diagnosis, but on needs.

If DS is 6 now it’s now irrelevant what nursery thought.