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Autism and Violence - will it stop

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Cartooner · 16/11/2022 20:30

My son has ADHD and ASD High Functioning. Age 14. Can anyone who has direct experience of improving things post, even briefly, to let me know did it get better? He takes medication for school, a low dose medikinet. He regularly blows up and it is so scary the older he gets. At least once a week. He has left holes all around the house which is not new but it is scarier as he gets bigger. He has left bruises on us over the years. Tonight he asked for a new game and I said no. He is new to gaming. Apart from the game itself over 18s, it is extremely expensive. We just paid for something else last week for him. The past hour has been door slamming, roaring, getting into our faces, scaring and hitting his younger sibling. I dread the rest of the evening.

The question 'what is the trigger' is frustrating because I've been hearing that for years, there is no avoidable trigger here except that I did not say yes. Another day the trigger is something else. He is well exercised, well fed.

Any tips? I am re-reading the explosive child. Thank you.

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GreenSalon · 17/11/2022 08:33

Hi, I’m afraid I don’t have any solutions but saw your post when I was searching for similar myself so I thought I would respond.
I have one DC with ADHD and the angry outbursts (with sometimes physical rage) only started to calm down in the two years so I can’t offer you help but I do think puberty makes it worse. DC is now medicated properly and it takes the edge off but he’s only now very slowly starting to realise he needs to help himself- a sign of developing maturity - now they are 18?. My youngest DC has ASD and I can see us getting to where you are. His outbursts and anger are verbal so far. It’s such a lonely place to be as a parent isn’t it?

Thatsnotmycar · 17/11/2022 11:54

Have you looked at Yvonne Newbold’s resources?

What support is DS receiving? A medication review might help too.

Do you think DS could have PDA?

krobhix20 · 17/11/2022 16:26

If you are reading/re-reading explosive child you are already on the right track. I can't say I completely understand as my DS is only 5.5y but I know exactly what you mean.

Something that may also be helpful is The B Team on FB. I don't always agree to the lengths some of the parents go to on there, but reading through the posts it can be helpful to understand how to apply plan b.

Sending you hugs it's so hard when they can't control their anger.

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