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Moving son away from best friend to attend ELR

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nboo81 · 08/10/2022 22:58

My son is due to start high school next year and we are applying for support as he has severe dyslexia. School also suspected asd- but after an initial appointment with the paediatric team they are not assessing him any further. We really want him to go to a school that will be able to give him the most support for his learning and we don’t even know yet if he will be offered a place in the enhance learning unit. One of our big concerns is his friendships - his best friend (he really only has one close friend) will not be attending the school with the support base and I already feel bad that he might not be with him. I know they often say they meet new friends when they move on but he does struggle with this too. We have started to talk to him about the possibility of him not being with his bestie and he is so negative about this. It is so hard we just want to get it right for him.

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Thatsnotmycar · 09/10/2022 12:04

Personally, I wouldn’t make the decision based on friendships as they change so much in secondary. Even if they go to the same school DS’s best friend may move on and make new friends and not have much to do with DS.

Have you asked each school how they support pupils socially? Is there any provision in his EHCP aimed at friendships and social skills?

nboo81 · 09/10/2022 13:40

I have the same feelings as you and know they will probably move on but it’s been so nice recently to see him interact with his friend more often- he seems really happy. We have asked for visits with the schools so will hopefully will find this information out more.

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