To be gutted about SEN diagnosis.

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Just that really. Have a lovely bright confident handsome little boy in year three. To talk to him you would never know he can’t read, can’t spell, has trouble with his handwriting. Can’t use a knife and fork. Can’t sit still. He came home from school last night and said “I’m worthless”
The school have finally after three years of saying it’s just he’s young, it’s just the lock down, he will catch up have now has an Ed Psych report back and he’s got a SEND plan. I should be happy after all this pushing for support but instead I’m tearful. I feel
like this is all my fault.
My youngest has ASD and has just gone into reception so I know I’ll be fighting this battle again.
Would an OT help? What can I do? Homework is met with screaming and panic. He will happily play and draw and create all day long but I think school is going to knock all the lovely confidence out of him. Does anyone have any advice.

It does sound like OT, among other things, would help. By SEND plan do you mean an EHCP or equivalent if not in England?

It's OK to be gutted. It's not your fault. And better to have assessments now than later. Does he actually have a diagnosis or just a list of current issues?
He's got you in his corner, that will help a lot.

Thank you both 💐. He’s just got a SEND plan from the school while we wait for the EHCP. They are looking at dyslexia, possible ADD and there are issues with fine and gross motor skills too.

Where are you in the EHCP process? Are the LA sticking to the timescales? OT, SALT and MH assessments can form part of the EHCNA.

@Thatsnotmycar literally had a call this morning from the school saying that they are now going to put him on the schools SEND plan while we wait for the EHCP. It’s unfamiliar territory for me so I don’t know what to do next.

Ask the school if they have submitted an EHCNA request to the LA. If they haven’t do it yourself. IPSEA have a model letter you can use to send to the LA.

Hugs to you I’m going through very similar. My boy is 6 and struggles so much at school. I’ve just paid for private o.t assessment and it has been worth every Penny. My son can’t read or write, can’t hold a pencil, fidgets, gets out of his seat to name a few. Anyway the o.t has said he has hyper mobility issues with his feet and hands, very weak core strength and has retained reflexes. She said he is also dyspraxic and he’s already under a paediatrician for Adhd for he's concentration and impulsiveness and very possible he has dyslexia.

she’s writing a report for the school for adjustments like a wedge in his seat and slanted board to write on, wedge Is suppose to help keep them still and focused. Writing pen, laptop use etc. She has given advice on how to talk to my son so he processes better what I’m saying and that instead of movement breaks walking around the school give him the job of class monitor so give out books and wipe boards etc it’s all suppose to work. Also advice for his pe teacher on how to help him during lessons. I’ve also got exercises to help with his hyper mobility and retained reflexes.

so if you can afford it go private and get him seen it’s so worth it.