DS is going into Year 6 and we are in the process of looking at secondary schools. DS has sensory issues , retained reflexes and is anxious due to early experience of neglect in birth family.
His is delayed academically by around 3-4 years.. His progress is very slow academically, but in areas he's interested in he has remarkable retention of facts. School (primary) has put in place some small group work which has helped as has some therapeutic work..
I'm anxious about his experience of secondary school given his delay in reading and writing delay and sensory issues. I have meetings with the school's SENCO as well as general visits booked to find out about support. We are also in the process of applying for EHCP.
I'm thinking a smaller school may be more nuturing and make it less likely for DS to get "lost" in the system, but at the same time question whether bigger means more resources? I worry that all may "talk the talk" at information meetings when in reality we might have to fight to get his needs met (he's compliant so his behaviour won't be a problem).
Most of the indicators of a school's success from a statistics point of view seem to focus on academic success. Is there a measure of how a school helps delayed children thrive? I'm struggling also to decide how important it is that DS goes to a school where most of his classmates will go to?
Any advice on what to look for in a good secondary would be appreciated (and what to avoid).