Secondary wwyd

[fyodor11]

Good evening, interested in opinions,
I have a child with learning disabilities who is about to go into year 5. She has a twin who has an adhd inattentive diagnosis but is pretty bright and a sister about to enter year 4, neuro typical and clever. Child A with learning difficulties will get an ehcp this year but will not qualify for nor suit a special school. She is academically slow but no behavioral issues. Twin B is super bright but annoying, sister C just quite clever. We live in a proper binary grammar area but are catholics!
Would you send all three to a decent Catholic school or push the two to take and pass the 11+ and leave the most vulnerable child to manage mainstream secondary alone? Sorry, bone of contention with DH at the moment.

I think you should do what is right for each individual child and not base decisions for child B&C on what is right for A. Especially as child A will likely not be around child B&C much in secondary anyway, even child B is unlikely to spend much time with A in secondary as the won’t be in the same form and if taught in mixed ability groups or sets they won’t be together for the majority/all classes.

Don’t rule out a SS. Not all DC in SS have behavioural difficulties and a child with a learning disability is likely to increasingly struggle in a secondary MS.