If DD’s EHCP was only finalised earlier this year are you sure the LA plan on holding an AR before the summer holidays? Usually, ARs are held every 12 months unless an early review is needed or it’s a phase transfer year.
The LA are responsible for ensuring the AR is held but as DD attends college the college are responsible for ensuring everyone that needs to be invited is and circulating the relevant information before and after. The LA may not even attend, they don’t always. This IPSEA information explains more about what should happen and when.
The college aren’t the ones who decide whether amendments will be made, that’s the LA. Whether the LA agree to any amendments you and college want depends on what the amendment is, DD’s needs, what evidence you have and your LA.
Provision should not be removed because it is impractical for the college. Provision should be based on DD’s needs, not on what the college can offer or normally provide.
Can anything be said upfront such as 'apply such adjustments as recommended by BO provided feasible' or whatever?
You could, but even if the LA agreed to it, which is unlikely, it would too woolly and vague to be of any use.
If it is being held virtually it helps to have a copy of the EHCP open.