Posting here for advice as I just don't know what to do anymore . DD is 7 and has had trouble settling at her current school since Reception, then with lockdown she was out of school for a long time like lots of DC were but this was made worse by the fact I am CV and had to shield, it was really hard on all of us but she is so young and rarely saw any other children her own age.
Flash forward to last September and she went back to school, she loved her teacher but she was starting to show signs of delay. Her fine motor skills are behind, her writing is not where it should be and she was generally just not settling and began having huge outbursts, screaming, crying, telling the teacher she hates her etc.
She now has a new teacher and last week I was called in to speak to the teacher and Senco who have both told me they believe DD is showing signs of being on the autistic spectrum. They have expressed concern about it before, but I wanted to wait a while after lockdown before having her seen as I was hopeful that she would start to settle when life went 'back to normal'. At home she has a lot of anxiety but displays nothing close to the behaviour they are seeing at school. She is really sociable and incredibly bright but she can be really explosive and nothing I do seems to help.
They have written me a letter to take to my GP which outlines her behaviour and it has completely broken my heart to read it. I don't know what to do, what happens next? Obviously a diagnosis won't be happening for a long time if it happens at all so what will I do in the meantime? She loves her friends but it really seems like school is becoming too much for her, but I think home ed would make it worse. I am concerned the school aren't coping with her either and she is disruptive in class.
I know she is trying her best and has been through a lot, but I feel so ashamed I can't seem to help her manage her emotions and that she is being so disrespectful to the teachers and disrupting her class. I'm also just so confused as she is generally so much happier at home, although her anxiety is really high and she is starting to show signs of school refusal.
Apologies for the long post but I am in absolute bits. I am so anxious every day at the moment and I don't know what to do next. I feel like such a terrible mum.
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Beebatron · 11/05/2022 18:56
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