How to help DS deal with disappointment

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DS is 8, autistic & adhd. He really struggles to cope with not being able to have something he wants. For example, he sees something in a shop and really wants it. I explain we can't get it and the reason (usually it's too expensive or not something we need). I've really tried to help him understand about the value of money and to also be fair and say if he really wants something, we can save or he can get a treat at the end of the week for getting to school on time, being kind to brother etc. We've had so many conversations about not being able to have everything we want. He just fixates on things though & says "it's all I can think about". I don't know what else to do. I want him to be happy but without needing stuff to make him happy!

I don't have any advice but my son is 6 this month and is exactly the same. It's totally exhausting so I feel for you. My son has no diagnosis yet but says things like 'my brain won't stop thinking about it. I'm trying'

Bless him ❤️ my son's the same, he's good at recognising it but doesn't help it stop! I've been thinking I might write a list with him - of free things that make him feel happy! Like a long hug, dancing to some music, doing some art etc. To try and help him think of other ways to get the high that a new toy gives!

This may or may not work but I have seen a strategy where when they want something in a shop you take a photo of them holding it, some children are then happier to put it back. Worth a try?

Thank you @Cliff1975 definitely worth a try!