DC is 16 (year 12) and has ADHD, Autism and Generalised Anxiety Disorder. They had a year and a half out of school due to severe school-related anxiety and received no education whatsoever during that time. This was after a period of very low attendance. They only managed to get one GCSE in an art subject because marking was based on portfolio only and DC was well ahead of the rest of the class (started GCSEs in year 9).
DC really wanted to try to go to college in September this year, assuming it would be different to school and they might be able to cope with it better. They have an EHCP, which I managed to get only just in time for them to start ( the LA took 3 months longer than they should have as it got forgotten about). The course they chose was listed as part time so we thought this would be ideal, but they still had to be there four days a week and two of the days were over 7 hours. It didn't help that they had to re-do English and maths GCSE. For context, DC barely managed to cope with half days at school when they were on a reduced timetable. The college was not willing to allow DC to have reduced hours, even for the first couple of weeks.
After about a week, I emailed the person at the LA whom I had been liaising with about the EHCP, just to warn her that things weren't going well and DC may need to withdraw from the course. I also warned DC's tutor and learning support coordinator. The LA said that, if they leave then they will arrange for my DC to have home tutition. The two people at the college just asked me to let them know DC's decision.
When DC decided to withdraw from the course, I let everyone know. The SEN manager at the college sent me a form to fill in and asked me what DC wants to do next. I said we had decided that home tuition would be best as they cannot cope in a school environment. That was the extent of the EHCP review. They sent the documentation to the LA. The person I had been in contact with spoke to a colleague who has experience with post-16 and she said that if DC had stayed on roll at college then they would have been given the resources to provide home tuition (no one told us this). Now it is more complicated and I have to wait to find out what they can do. They said that they have to name an educational institution on the EHCP and we can't name tutors, so I can't just hire tutors and get a personal budget to pay for them.
It sounds like we have to find a school that is willing to take my DC to coordinate home tuition, even though they won't actually go there. Is this how it works? My DC has not been in full time education for nearly two years. How can I make sure they get the GCSEs they need? Online tuition is not an option. My DC cannot engage with anyone on the phone or video call (not even their grandparents). DC also has no motivation to do work that is just assigned to them. They need an actual teacher to be here in person to teach them what they need to know.
Please help! What options are available/what are we entitled to? How do we fix this? We're in Kent if that's useful information.