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Struggling

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Treaty5645 · 11/09/2021 17:29

I'm not sure why all this has reared up now but I am struggling to be present with my children and just crave alone time.

Eldest dc who is now a teen has ADD - recently diagnosed (but tends to do a lot of her own thing) but in general I always feel like I'm prompting her. Second dc (8) is likely to be diagnosed with ADHD and has required a lot of supervision from me in the past. A third ds who started nursery this week but is having major wobbles and is not settling in all that well.

I guess what has happened is this week, for the first time in a long time, I have had a (very small) taste of reclaiming 'me' time (only male extended family members and not on the doorstep, husband works full-time) so really childcare has been left to me.

I too, have a mh condition (recently diagnosed) part of the work is about putting myself first for a change. Therapy has started but I think doing this work has made me see how very little I've actually put myself first in the past especially in light of dcs sometimes additional needs. I suppose I've become exhausted and without decent emotional support feel out of my depth at times. Just to have an adult conversation with a friend without the distraction of having a little person there would be something. I suppose this will change when youngest dc starts school.

I'm easily overwhelmed thanks to m/h issue and wondering what I need to do longer term to support my dc (and myself I guess).

Just need somewhere to vent today.

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overworkedrobot · 11/09/2021 20:06

Have you had social care assessments? A carer's assessment for you and an assessment by the disabled children's team for DC (or adult social care if DC1 is 18 or 19y/o). Also, contact Homestart.

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