Help me to be less irritated by these tics

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It's unbearable. I fee so horrible. My DD15 has the most annoying tic at the moment and I don't know how to stop feeling so irritated! Does anyone else get this or am I a complete arsehole. I have just had to leave the room because it's so annoying.

She is autistic. She does not need any support and lives a normal life but something she has always had is the tics.

At the moment the tic is a noise she makes with her lips like the noise you make when you pretend to be a phone ringing, she does it after every few words.

How can I not be so rubbish??

What like a trilling cat? 🤩

I know it's tricky, we've got quite a few extra with tics this year at the school where I work, I don't think lockdown helped!

One has a clicky pop noise which I quite like 😆

I must make her nervous but hey that's me...

Fucking hell OP,

I was just about to start a Fred with the same title! I feel like such a shit.
My beautiful ASD ds has taken to curling his upper lip in a snarl every four or five words. It’s driving me nuts. It’s like he’s airing his teeth.

I hate how he can take such a beautiful face and make such an ugly expression. I hate hate hate that he stops what he is saying to curl his lip, then continues.

The last tick was a cute nose twitch like that 50’s witch. I could cope with that one.
This one makes me want to pluck my eyes out.

In short, I have no idea how people are adult in the face of such adversity.

Ooh Tatty I wonder if you have my daughter. If by strange coincidence you do try not to take it personally. The whole school experience causes them to build up for her and they are worse by the last lessons.
As for dealing with them at home it is so hard. We have only just been able to actually talk about them for the last 5 years it was the elephant in the room. If you happened to be looking her way when she tic'd then she would be really cross. Luckily we only have the motor tics - school get the noises!!