A few things about my child make me wonder about ADD but I don’t really know where to start.
7yo dd, year 2, bright Autumn born kid and I think as a result it’s hard to raise concerns with the school. Lots of signs she’s very capable, since she was v little. She’s comfortably in the top group of her class without apparently trying hard. Her behaviour for learning is fine although she used to shout out, now gets caught reading instead of listening, stares out window etc.
She is also very messy, forgetful, daydreamy and inconsistent in terms of effort. In reception she was exceeding all areas and ever since, each parents eve/report she’s been ahead in some things and not in others - never the same thing. But in a slightly weird way eg went from exceeding in maths end of reception to barely meeting expectations in assessment a few weeks later, same at end of year 1 then suddenly already ahead of expectations a few weeks later in year 2. Her teacher says (without being asked) she’s doing fine and is bright and with a bit of care / effort would be doing much better, but agreed that might come with age. She’s also very creative and imaginative.
Lockdown learning was a write off - emotional freak outs, refusing to do any work, took an hour to write a terrible sentence, really dialling it in. In the end she just did the online lessons and no associated work.
Emotional stuff: used to have really epic meltdowns. Like, aged 15months, 45-60 minutes minimum of freak outs every day when we got in from nursery. She did have glue ear so for a long time I thought that was why. Still has a lot of emotional outbursts; really angry, dysregulated outbursts. Breaking things, screaming etc. Never at school. Does have (best) friends and in some ways seems socially sophisticated, is always very intensely close to one person at a time. Is very shy (comes across as rude now) and was pretty much selectively mute for about a year when starting school. Won’t talk to adults she doesn’t know very well. She’s stubborn, sensitive and can be anxious. But in general if you met her you’d probably think she was quite a grown up 7yo with a bit of a teenager vibe.
Does this sound familiar to anyone? I’m just wondering whether the emotional stuff and the instensity and the erratic learning etc is all tied in but I also don’t know if the school will even entertain my concerns, since they haven’t raised any..