Apologies for the content: I did initially want to post in AIBU but honestly I think few people would have understood my POV
I let my 7yo son poo in the garden tonight
He’s autistic and poo was an issue for years.
He has all these crazy rituals about toileting which we generally accept because we just want him to be comfortable. And not constipated. And he eats properly now which we are also desperate to maintain.
Mainly it works because nowadays he goes every day which feels like a goddamn miracle😂
He eats everything we give him
He has become outgoing at school and gives everything a go
He never shuts up which is amazing as he didn’t speak until two years ago
He is in a much much better place than he was
Tonight he decided he just had to go in the garden and begged us to let him do it. He identified with the dog 🙄
We did. We let him. He was arguing about it really rationally and we just thought maybe we should let him scratch the itch so to speak.
I am really horrified, I don’t know why I let him? We’re not particularly permissive people but we are tuned in to our sons quirks and his anxiety levels are really quite low at the moment so we are happy to keep him happy. Overall we have been hugely flexible and understanding of things and it think it has paid off but I will admit: I am really so ashamed
My husband insists that we are just continuing to de stigmatise something that is normal (he used to be really repulsed by the mechanics which was why he would refuse to go)
Has anybody else been in a similar situation? I can’t be the only one who has facilitated something pretty revolting like this?
pS .... we did use a poo bag in case anybody is wondering