Can I complain to ofsted anonymously?

[Naz2009]

There is a boy in my DD reception class who has limited understanding. He goes around being very aggressive to the children. Has from the 3/4th day of reception hit and push my daughter daily. Not just her, many other kids in the classroom.
He is a angry little boy and sadly despite the parents complain.
He has been in the school with those teachers since pre school. Yet the teachers have not taken care of him in accordance to their needs.
I've said to the head of early years get senco involved. She has told me. School doesn't have the funds for this.
The health and well being of not just this boy. But many other children is at steak here. I wasn't to complain to ofsted. However I don't want them to know who I am.

I'm not sure if you complain anonymously.

If he is pushing and hitting your DD daily, what are the school doing to protect her?

@JiltedJohnsJulie nothing.
I have flagged it up to the teacher many a times and she has, what feels like defended the boy. Putting it down to his mental disabilities and told my DD she needs to say NO to him and if needs be push him away.
Teacher has basically told me. To stop complaining about the boy. In fact at the last meeting I felt bullied and intimidated by the teacher to the point I don't want to see her.
I dread the school run daily.
She told me "you can't keep discussing the boy. He has limited understanding. It's not just your DD he goes around poking and pushing other kids to. Unless I physically tie him up, I can't do nothing, you're blessed to have a child who understands, your next child could have mental issues then what. There are women without children. You should count your blessings."
When I reminded her my DD has an autoimmune disease and if she becomes anxious which she does at school. Her body destroys her cells.

Teachers response don't want to talk about this anymore. We are going around in circles.
I've seen the boy push my DD twice. In one week whilst the kids where queuing up to be called out. Both occasions despite 3 members of staff present they didn't see.
Makes you wonder what do they miss in the classroom.

So sorry that you feel ignored and abandoned.

I'd keep a log of instances where your child has been pushed or hit.

Next time it happens, read the schools anti bullying policy and request a meeting with the HT. give examples of instances and ask what they are going to do to protect your child.

Is it a LA school or an academy?

@JiltedJohnsJulie it's an academy.
I come home today in floods of tears. Teacher is acting like a bully. The same teacher who would be jolly and say "hello/good morning" folds her arms over and turns her back towards me.
I know I wasn't in the wrong. Yet I made to feel I did wrong and I'm being isolated for my actions.
Maybe this teacher has never had a outspoken parent. Who has questioned things or asked for things to be done etc.

Don't let it get to you. If you are worried about your DD's welfare and safety you need a meeting with the HT. if you ask in Primary Education there will be lots of other MNers whose DC have been bullied.

When my DS was hit by a child after we repeatedly brought it up with the teacher, we wrote to the HT calmly stating how many times we had brought this up previously, explained what had happened and asked for a written response within 10 days stating why it had been alliowed to happen when they knew that this boy was targeting my DS and what steps they were taking to prevent it happening again.

The boy who hit my SN did have SN but fir me that was irrelevant, and we didn't mention it. As far as I am concerned my children are there fir hours a day and should not dread going it feel in danger.

You have no right to comment on the other child but you do have a right to expect your DD to be protected. You need to escalate following school procedures before ofstead.

And maybe you would get somewhere more to not keep making suggestions to the teacher about another child and instead continually raising anything that happens to your child and how it will be prevented from happening again

Trouble is this boy needs special care, at school.
Funding is very hard to come by, his parents need to be involved, and address his schooling.
You csn only complain about your daughter and get other parents to do the same

The school is 100% at fault here!

They aren't meeting this poor boys needs otherwise this wouldn't be happening. Behaviour is communication and it isn't this boys fault that he isn't being given the care he needs. This isn't your problem and your daughter and the other children should be being protected. I would complain formally to the school governors, this is a safeguarding issue from your perspective.

Funding is there but the school has to fund upto the first £6000 from their notional send budget. They don't want to do this so often don't apply for an ehcp which would provide further support. Local authorities often turn down ehcp assessments, special school places are like gold dust and non verbal kids are pushed into a mainstream environment which has no idea how to deal with them. The entire system is a joke.

@Mumofsend I've had no other choice but to comment on the boy as that's where the conversation is lead by the teacher.
Other than telling my DD to push the boy away, and tell her "figure it out" and even tell DD "give the boy love" teacher has not done anything to keep my DD and other kids safe.
She is unprofessional for even sharing with me about the boy in the first place.

@spikeyfish that's so sad to read . I understand it's costly, but such a messed up system as it's very important for kids with SN to get the right help.

Have you tried talking to the headteacher and rather than concentrating on the child who is pushing your daughter talking from the angle of safeguarding. Ask them how they are ensuring this as they have a duty to do so.

As a mother to a 3 year old child who has a language delay it's difficult as they cannot comprehend when they are doing something wrong and that might be there way of getting attention. My son went through a period where he was pushing children to get their attention as he didn't understand it was the wrong way. It took for me to keep showing him to tap someone on the shoulder and say hello constantly and for his nursery nurse to do the same to reenforce this. I constantly remind my son on a daily basis to be gentle and luckily he's a happy, well behaved gentle child.

It doesn't cost anything to get SENDCO involved.

Follow the complaints procedure online. Limit any issues to your child only. It is not unusual for parents to say they have complained when they have not.
Ofsted investigate whole school issues. You need to evidence you have followed the complaints procedure to the end. Any complaints not followed through by parents are considered settled.