Is DS(7) ASD?

[brashandrash]

DS(7) was speech delayed, spoke at 3 with weekly SALT. Started speaking and never stopped. If an adult asks him a question he will TALK at them long after they have lost interest. Mainly about himself or his obsessions (fire, sticks). He shows no shyness whatsoever and will talk to anyone about anything. He struggles with what is appropriate to say and what isn't. I have wondered if he is on the spectrum. He struggles to fit it with his peers and on group camping trips away he will hang about talking incessantly at the adults instead of hanging with his peers. He is also over emotional about everything. He cries at the drop of the hat. Is naturally extremely selfish. Is fussy about food and likes everything a certain way. Is always tired. Sometimes seems manic when over tired. When I write this all down I know he is but DH just says he's a tired emotional kid and there is no purpose to labelling him - 🤷‍♀️ I think there is though? To help me understand him better and have more sympathy when he is being difficult!

Oh he also developed tics around age 4 that he has since grown out of which I believe can be related

I seen your thread hadnt been answered. Read your dh this for me. I am him. I am that parent. I didnt want them labelled. I didnt want them to be put in a box where they are labelled instead of just being them. They are fine i said. Of course they are. They answer me sometimes the first time I say their name they are engrossed in what they are doing, my daughter is born to be on stage, she will outgrow her shyness ( lack of responding) my son is a lads lad, yeh he is hyper, yeh he doesnt respond sometimes he is busy, yeh he talks alot he is chatty, yeh he is impulsive he gets bored easy he is clever, yeh he gets over emotional he is tired. I didnt know with my daughter i can honestly say that. But i always knew with my son. He turned 9 he struggled badly all of a sudden. He turned to me and said " mum I think I have adhd can you take me to the doctor I need help. " He realised it by watching shows that have a diagnosed character in and relating to them in a way he doesnt others. I took him to be told they cant help ask the school. He is still not diagnosed. Harder than living with fighting for a diagnosis is fighting the truth hidden within myself that I never fought for it before where it is so obvious a nine year old could work it out. May god forgive me.

And when I say obvious I dont mean severe. I wouldnt label either as severe. I have heard my daughter is so midly autistic she doesnt need a diagnosis by a HEADTEACHER. Even though she refuses to go school. Which is laughable. What I mean is we as parents often look but do we always see. We often hear but do we always listen. If he isnt he wont be labelled. But if you thought he may have a fractured leg you as a parent would get it checked right? Ive been told secondary is hard and if a diagnosis is needed it needs doing in primary ideally. Hope I helped in some small way.

@brashandrash

Yep I would say you have enough red flags in your post to warrant further investigation. It will only get worse as he gets older. He needs support now.