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finally made the decision...Ds is off to PMLD school

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mamazon · 09/10/2007 20:46

and i am terrified.

for those that don't know he is 7, autistic and generally functions on the level of a 3-4 year old.

we have had a myriad of problems along the way and the lastest is the fact that DS is being bullied a lot.
it was parents evening last night and finally a teacher that was objective was able to give me the response i have always wanted...the truth!

the teachers he had last year hated hima nd didn't feel he should be taught in her class, she saiud to my face that she was scared of him and that he took up too much of her time and so she felt he would be better off in a classroom alone.

the Senco has a bit of a soft spot for Ds which is lovely but she tends to look at everything through rose tinted glasses, she woudl always gloss over teh fact that he was falling furtehr and further behind his classmates and they were beginning to notice.

but finally he has a teacher that enjoys teaching him, who has a wealth of SN experiance but who can see that he is not able to fully integrate with his classmates.
she has said that she fully supports my wish for him to go to SN.

i am pleased as i wanted to move him ready for the start of this year..but without school backing it would never have gone through.

but now i finally have it and i am pretty sure we will be granted the move....i feel a bit...i don't know, scared/nervous/something.

i know it's a bit silly as its deffinatley the best place for DS, the school is amazing. its just a bit sad as well. like admitting just how bad he is, like i have tried at MS and failed or something...which obviously is ridiculous.

but its just how i am feeling at the moment.
sorry for teh long whinge. i don't feel i can say it to anyone else for fear of them trying to convince me into letting him stay in MS whcih is failing him

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tuftyclub · 09/10/2007 22:40

You have not failed your child, I just wish their was a school which would suit my ds, he fits into neither MS or SS.

I think that as a parent, we can only make our descions on the information we have TODAY, any wrong choices we have made are down to not having sufficient information at the time.

tobysmumkent · 09/10/2007 23:06

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mamazon · 10/10/2007 16:10

thats exactly how i feel tobysmumkent.

although i know how difficult things are for him its a bit different to actually admitting it and getting it all formalised.

i spoke with the county senco and she doesn't see there being an issue over him moving.....i think i would prefer a bit of a struggle to be honest lol.

but if the school have a place then he will probably start in january.

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