Twice exceptional - low processing speed

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Hello

Username says it all. We've just had the results of an independent EP assessment of DS (Y5) that effectively has him as highly able but with low average processing speed and meriting further investigation for ADHD/social anxiety/ODD. The EP has said he's twice exceptional and should be given 25% extra time in exams.

This has all come up because of how he's been dealing with online learning. I thought he was just being manipulative to avoid doing work and got an EP involved as a precautionary measure. I feel terrible. I've basically been sending him to time out etc for reactions he has no control over.

I'm not sure what I'm looking for in this thread but just wanted to type something out. Next step is to go into battle with the school who had not identified any of this. I appreciate lots of people and children are dealing with much bigger issues but I'm struggling to deal with the fact that this isn't something I can fix for him. I'm lucky that I can throw money at support but he's still going to be dealing with this for life.

Hi, my daughter is also twice exceptional (although the Ed Psych didn’t call it that, but I’ve done my research-she has an exceptionally high IQ, learning difficulties including slow processing / working memory / literacy development and executive function which seem to amount to dyslexia/ possibly dyspraxia, maybe Also AS, also sensory processing challenges, strabismus(eye problems), anxiety. She’s struggled with school for years and years, in year 4 (also August born.. should’ve been Year below, poor kid you could make this shit up.)
I have along list of stuff to do for her, starting with Vision therapy for her visual processing.
It’s tough but knowing what’s going on is a great start.
I’ve been using the time on lockdown where I can to research her needs as much as possible.
Times tables and spellings are a big issue for us, am going to be teaching her strategies for them (rather than rote learning).
Also using technology to assist her writing, we are using dictation software.
It’s hard as the gifted ness masks the SEN and vice versa.
Schools aren’t set up for kids that break the mould, which 2e kid definitely do.
Look on Facebook for some 2e groups.
DM me if you want to chat. Best of luck xx

Thanks, particularly for the facebook group suggestions. That's really helped. We've told him now (stressing on the positives of course) and he responded with "great 'normal' is boring" so at least that's done. I also have a friend with a child with ASD in the same class (also 2e I suspect, although I haven't asked - certainly very bright at least) who has said the school have been great so that's a weight off my mind.

Hi Busy and Reeling. Hi my daughter was picked up as having mild dyslexia and a low processing speed and poor working memory (level of a 6 year old at aged 11). She has also been diagnosed with the inattentive form of ADHD in sixth form. She is planning to go to a Russell Group university. She has suffered a lot of frustration, never finishes on time, but did get 10 GCSEs. In sixth form she was assessed and would have had 50% extra time for her A levels. She has found it tough, just be aware that all school work will take twice as long than everyone else and revision is a slow slog. I just wanted to show your child can have these issues and do OK at school.