I had a thread in chat the other day and had some useful support, but things at home are getting worse and I desperately need some help on how to deal with 5yo DS and his violent outbursts. He has a recent (<3 months ago) diagnosis of Aspergers (yes I know that’s unusual, and have queried it, but apparently our trust still make this diagnosis, and it does fit). I think most of the behaviour is related to lockdown - we are fortunate to have a good amount of space indoors and out, and he’s been on a few long bike rides (8 miles from home). But I think it’s the lack of school, his teacher, his friends. Most of the violence is aimed at his younger brother, who is generally a much calmer and more (classically) sensitive person. He does goad DS1 though, I’ve seen it, so it’s a balancing act. My main problem is that when DS1 hits DS2 all hell breaks loose, and then I have DH shouting in the mix too (and sometimes I lose the plot and start shouting too even though I try not to). I’ve worked out that he needs to calm down before we address the behaviour, but it’s hard work to get him calm, I can’t work out what works for him. And there’s also the fact that he’s crazily strong for a 5yo - 22kg of pure muscle. So before long restraining him won’t be possible for me. This makes me worry. So any advice on a discipline system would be appreciated. Time out/withholding privileges doesn’t seem to work for him, never has. He seems to have low self esteem at the moment, when things have calmed down he says that he’s stupid (far from it), and he also says he hates himself, that he wants to kill himself (not sure he really knows what this means). Also threatens younger brother. These moments are pure rage, and I want to be able to a) stop him getting to this stage, b) find ways of bringing him back when he’s like this. Although it all sounds rather hopeless we are having lots of lovely moments too. And he is having lots of lovely moments with his brother. Sometimes I feel like I’m dealing with a psychopath not a 5yo...