Apologies for putting this in SEN. My son possibly has behavioural issues according, at one point to his nursery, and it's either not been followed up or something else. I'm frantic and can't figure it out.
My son was 2 at the time of this, he's now 3.
When my son started nursery he was happy and made friends. Then the senior carer in the room moved up to the older room, and the junior carer was all that was left.
To be frank, I found her lazy and although it shouldn't matter, terrible BO.
Caught her numerous times playing on her phone laying on the floor (phones are banned at the nursery)
A few weeks later, lazy carer had called a meeting about the bad behaviour of my son. This was a 180 from his normal behaviour and I was concerned. We didn't see this behaviour at home, with his friends or even when we saw him at nursery.
At the meeting, against the input of old carer, lazy carer told the nursery owner that our son needed to be put on some sort of behavioural monitoring and assessment program. Shocked, we agreed.
He went from being happy to being dropped at nursery to screaming his head off not to go in.
Months passed and frankly, the diary was barely filled in. Most entries listed what he ate, or were positive saying he played with a friend. We got a negative statement once a month at mist,
At the followup meeting, lazy carer, came in, told us she had an emergency and dashed off. No mention was made by old carer, or owner about behaviour. They talked around nothing and wrapped it up.
A month later, our son moved up to the older room and was back with the old carer and some new ones. The separation anxiety at drop off still happened but dropped off immensely. Now it's almost totally gone.
One day, my husband comes back and says that they've lost the diary and couldn't give it to him. I assumed it was my husband being blind.
The next day, I go in, and ask for the diary, and they tell me it's been lost. Unbelievably, I could actually see his book in a pile with a few others, I assume for other kids being monitored. So I point it out, pick it up and they didn't look pleased at all but tried to act relieved.
I get home and tell my husband, and he says he has an odd feeling and the diary is going to vanish. He suggests that we photograph each page so we have a record of our son's behaviour.
It took ages, but we did it, and for couple of weeks it was filled in, again 90% "DS ate peas and sausages today. Later has played in the sandpit with his friend Mark" type of stuff.
Then as my husband predicted, the diary went missing totally. Speaking with one of the newer carers in my sons room, she was shocked and said that one of the carers (older carer or lazy I couldn't work out) would need that diary to complete some paperwork.
Initially, I thought my husband was paranoid, but looking back the diary contains almost nothing worrying or odd behaviours. I've little to no idea if there was a real issue with him, or what was going on!
Sorry for the long message but I'm worried my son has undiagnosed issues and or something was going on at the nursery I should have been aware of. Now the nursery is closed, I have no one to speak to about it.