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Any advice on how to support teen with AS D who is very anxious in crowfs

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missmapp · 12/01/2020 18:49

Ds1 is 14 and was diagnosed with AS D last year. Over the last few months he has become increasingly anxious in crowds. Will try to avoid at all costs or else stand in a corner / at the side of the space. Even somewhere he loves ( Harry potter studios for example) when we visited recently , he rushed through , so different from when we went last year and he took forever stating at each thing.
. It is so hard to see . . There are many things we have missed because of this ( trips to London for example ) but I am keen to give him strategies rather than avoid.
He has been accepted to tier 2 cahms counselling but there is a 12 week waiting list and I would like to start helping him sooner than that.
Anyone have any strategies we could share with him ?
Many thanks

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ChildPsych101 · 12/01/2020 19:30

Difficult to be sure what would help. Changes in behaviour are fairly normal in young people with autism as they go through puberty, and their processing often seems to get turned on its head.

In case noise is a factor, you could try ear defenders? Having a sensory toy (e.g. fidget cube, soft material in pocket, stress ball) in hand could help.

Does he also feel it's an issue that needs to be resolved. If so, it might be useful reflecting together on the situation (if he doesn't think it needs fixing, this may be less successful...). See if he knows why he gets upset? If you're able to brainstorm any ideas, it might let you structure gentle exposure while reducing what bothers him as much as possible.
E.g. if sound bothers him, then places like libraries or churches/cathedrals can be good exposure to groups of people without the noise of a crowd. If he's worried about people touching him, then making sure he's in the middle/by the wall when you travel would let you protect his personal space.

One thing I think helps some of the kids I work with who have sensory issues is having an exit strategy /knowing there's a way out of the crowd if things get too much. They know where the nearest exits are, and I'll ask if they want to step outside for a bit if we're in a loud/busy room. Sometimes knowing they have a choice is enough for them to settle, but sometimes the break's needed. Either way, they still have that exposure to the stimulus without inducing too much distress.

Can you add any further details? E.g. can your son go to the cinema and sit next to/near other people, or does that trigger his anxiety?

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missmapp · 12/01/2020 19:39

Thanks childpsych that is illegally helpful.

He says it is people all around him that he doesn't like, especially when they stop in front of him and block doorways/corridoors. It is hard to get much more detail as he finds it hard to talk about, and just says ' you're not helping'. When he is calmer we get a bit more about how he feels.
He is usually okay in the cinema if we get the back their next to the aisle. Again, this was never an issue but is getting worse.

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missmapp · 12/01/2020 19:40

Sorru, that should say
Back seat or next to the aisle

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missmapp · 12/01/2020 19:40

Also not illegally helpful ! But really helpful

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