DS is 8 and was diagnosed with ADHD last year. He is in a small state school and is in class of only 15 children. School have mostly been very supportive and the SENCO (who was his teacher at the time) recognised that that he may have ADHD before DH or I even considered it. He will have a classroom assistant starting soon and his current teacher has made a lot of adjustments to help him. His behaviour has improved massively in the last few months since he has been in medication but he still definitely has his moments and concentration is still an issue although he is bright and is in the top groups for maths and reading so obviously things could be a lot worse.
The reasons I am considering a move are that although there obvious advantages to a small school it is becoming obvious that there are disadvantages for a child like him as well. Behaviour was a big issue with him in the first 3 years of school and it was obviously picked up on my other children (and their parents, one particular delight loved pointing out that her child kept telling her how many times DS had been in Time Out 
). He has a few friends but I worry now that he has a ‘reputation’. He has been picked on my some of the older children, he never tells about this in school and because he struggles to give a clear story, school always say there is no evidence but I have seen some of it myself so I know he’s not making it up, these children will leave at the end of the year but that seems a long way off now..!
There has also been a lot of swearing from aa couple other children in his class with in the last few month and it is obvious from what DS repeats that these children have access to a lot of inappropriate videos. We’ve talked about of and he now comes to me to ask if new words his friends teach him are suitable but obviously an impulsive child learning swear words is not ideal..!
It came to a head last week when I had a call from school to tell me DS had said something sexually inappropriate to another girl in the playground. The words used were not ones that DS knows (I would know if he did as he’s too impulsive not to have blurted them out...). I spoke to DS and he told me another child had dared him to say it and he was mystified as to what it meant. The parents of the girl are VERY angry and have made this clear to school, the mother previously confronted me in the playground about something incredibly minor that DS was supposed to have done so I can’t wait to meet her after half term...
would I be mad to move him to a larger school where his reputation from the last couple of years doesn’t preceed him and where he doesn’t have to fear the older children and hopefully wouldn’t be exposed to as much inappropriate language? Or would it be safer to stick to the smaller school?
Sorry for the essay! Any experiences appreciated!